describe how to deal with disagreement between the practitioner and other adults
Very often in my life I have found myself in the middle of the
conflict. We have to be very wise, diplomatic and try to help to solve
the problem if somebody asks us to. [ Many times people know how to sort
it out or what must be done to solve the problem but they are too emotionally
involved and at that moment and they simply are not able to do
anything. If such a situation happened it is good
to listen and give them time to calm down. It can take just few
minutes or longer period of time. Important thing is to keep patient; this may be hard to do but it is important to keep a cool head. At times I am required to mediate discussions over a period of time until both parties feel that the issue has been resolved to their satisfaction. Might be conflicts at work, between husband and wife, among
friends, among children at school or at home.
1. Firstly when we want to manage disagreements the skill of
listening to both sides of the conflict and assessing the whole situation is required before making any decisions. I
Also checking their non-verbal communication and make sure I am
aware of what caused the conflict in reality.
Working with Roma children I found out that sometimes they bring their
conflicts from previous disagreement. Verbal conflicts are easier to manage
than physical disagreements.
2. Secondly I must be completely sure that both sides want and are
ready to resolve the conflict. If the children stay angry or refuse
to communicate helping them to negotiate will be impossible to do. Few days ago one Roma boy was hit by another friend. They kept saying different stories what happened to them as they were looking at this problem from their own point
of view. Other children witnessed the incident and helped by explaining
what happened. Sometimes I ask both sides separately as this gives more of a clearer picture and I make sure they are honest. ]
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